A short meet up with Lindsay reminded me we came a long way knowing how to strive and survive parenting woes.
It feels different with a little gal in your arms.
Till then
Wish them luck in how they do their parenting
theres only so much you could help as a sibling
Garner supprt and some hand me now clothings
Social family support.
Its not an easy path
Saturday, November 12, 2016
Sunday, November 06, 2016
I just nee to take it off my chest
Many times i question if it was a gd idea to be hands on parents if we had a choice
The answer is no regrets on this pathway
of coz some may beg to differ.
We had this conversation with my bil who thinks money could outsource parenting chore. Yes i do agree to a certain extent but not all the bits. but of coz he probably after 3 months, we shall see how zai he can be.
I do not agree parenting could be outsourced. The person to impart values skillsets and morals should be the parents and not from some FT
But of course not all parents agree. Not all parents can be hands on. Especially before marriage, you realise that nil housework from a partner. could just mean. well on well.
I can only wish them best of luck, i do not instigate the Dos n donts of parenting but somehow I hope i m not wrong about this.
After all it took me more than a year to stable things up and if its something i dun have in common like him
most likely i dun have a mentality like him that parenting could be outsourced as he mentioned
Try it and perhaps if there is a bonding with the helper and the parents obviously there is some issues.
But if there is something i did learn, its good that i learnt independence and self reliance
Although I lack the financial capacity in juggling all the different hats.
I m still happy hes sent to the ifc despite the frequent sent backs due to the immunity
Well we are experimental with our first born. what could we say
No one's infallible we just learnt as we go along
since he has such a good helper lets be hoepful she will always be committed and on the ball
Afterall demands of a newborn and toddler needs are different
Its difficult to see the picture when you are not involved.
Moreover we are talking about 2 adult with zero child care giving experience.
At least I am glad. i took the tougher path to overcome my own deficiencies.
It could have been rosier with extra pair of hands
But its ok. people all have different curves.
I m still learning to cope with an active toddler and to be better parents.
I do not need his affirmation on how i could be a better mother. Hes got a long way when there is no help
Then he would know better.
The answer is no regrets on this pathway
of coz some may beg to differ.
We had this conversation with my bil who thinks money could outsource parenting chore. Yes i do agree to a certain extent but not all the bits. but of coz he probably after 3 months, we shall see how zai he can be.
I do not agree parenting could be outsourced. The person to impart values skillsets and morals should be the parents and not from some FT
But of course not all parents agree. Not all parents can be hands on. Especially before marriage, you realise that nil housework from a partner. could just mean. well on well.
I can only wish them best of luck, i do not instigate the Dos n donts of parenting but somehow I hope i m not wrong about this.
After all it took me more than a year to stable things up and if its something i dun have in common like him
most likely i dun have a mentality like him that parenting could be outsourced as he mentioned
Try it and perhaps if there is a bonding with the helper and the parents obviously there is some issues.
But if there is something i did learn, its good that i learnt independence and self reliance
Although I lack the financial capacity in juggling all the different hats.
I m still happy hes sent to the ifc despite the frequent sent backs due to the immunity
Well we are experimental with our first born. what could we say
No one's infallible we just learnt as we go along
since he has such a good helper lets be hoepful she will always be committed and on the ball
Afterall demands of a newborn and toddler needs are different
Its difficult to see the picture when you are not involved.
Moreover we are talking about 2 adult with zero child care giving experience.
At least I am glad. i took the tougher path to overcome my own deficiencies.
It could have been rosier with extra pair of hands
But its ok. people all have different curves.
I m still learning to cope with an active toddler and to be better parents.
I do not need his affirmation on how i could be a better mother. Hes got a long way when there is no help
Then he would know better.
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