no $ no talk

this place... simply not a good place stay long term.
at least when i was in the bank. i was well compensated to be abused.
other than learning . i cant seem to find another good reason to stay long term.
bao zhu bo was so nonsense chairing the meeting earlier.
she expects model answers.. no wonder so many ppl r leaving n coming. no extra $ to motivate ppl to slog under her.
forward email signature indicates insincere.. screw her man..
so once i have all the experience and certification time to throw her the letter.
its not even condusive in the first place, if she is so stubborn and so subjective in her opinions. do not even welcome open discussion. any further opposition just puts her in the bao zhu po unclass mode.

分手前，请你记得要对我好一点，

分手时，请别对我说其实你很好，

分手后，请你记得我只是陌生人，

就算是，我的心中依旧深爱着你...



你我的相识就像是一场美丽的误会，

从相识，到相爱，最终成为陌生人，

最初以为你一定会是我最后一个情人，

最终才知道你不过是我生命中的过客，

时间到了，幸福完了，缘分也尽了，

才知道原来自己爱上了一个不该爱的人...



我是真的很爱你，只是你不懂得珍惜，

我是真的对你好，只是你不曾发现过，

我是真的不想走，只是你让我绝望了...



如果有一天，我对你提出分手，

我不会让你挽留，也不会接受你的挽留，

因为你不知道，对自己深爱的人说出分手，

是需要多么大的一份勇气...

你已经错过了应该珍惜我的时候，

在伤害已经造成了以后，才想对我做些弥补，

一切真的已经太迟了，

也只有我才会那么傻，

给你那么多次的机会，

让你一再地伤害我那颗脆弱的心灵...



或许你真的会改变，只是我已经不再相信了...



有些人你永远也改变不了的，或许有一天他改变了， 可他已经不再是你的,

有些事你永远也弥补不了的，或许有一天会变淡了，可伤害却一直存在着...

some posting in flower pod which was interesting..marry the one you love

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I had a small talk with my dad last night.

And he told me.. "age is not a factor, don't rush into marriage because you feel you're of age to. The most important thing is to find the right man to marry"

So it made me wonder...
Should i marry the man i love or the right guy?
the right guy might not be the man i love...

Would u marry a husband material guy or marry the man u love, even though you know he isn't
the perfect husband material?

Marriage changes everything, it's not THE END to a r'ship, its the very start of it.
So how would you know the man you're about to marry is the RIGHT one?
how can you judge by dating a couple of years?
what makes you think the man you love is the right one?

As for me, i think i follow my heart too much that i'd rather marry the man i love, he may not a perfect husband but i think there's no right or wrong to marrying the man you love.
beaver_juice
We come to love not by finding a perfect person, but by learning to see an imperfect person perfectly”

“Love me when I least deserve it, because that's when I really need it.”
rainbow bear..
"The love we give away is the only love we keep."
the most important thing to a woman is to never marry the wrong guy, you will regret for life

QUOTE (PoShLeEn~ @ Jul 2 2010, 11:42 AM) *
if the man i love, loves me as much as i do to him, he will try his best to be husband material for me.

jus like if i love him, i will try my best to be of wifey material for him

zelda1031
kinda agree with this.

anyway a good BF = good husband for my POV ^^)
if he's really a good bf , he will put u in the 1st place , plan future for u ..... and treat you good .....
unless he's a fake good bf -.-ll just act till married than devil's tail come out ^^ll
ZiYe
best of all is to marry the one whom you love and is perfect husband material lo.. laugh.gif

if not, i would choose to marry one who makes a good husband than the one i love but is a lousy lifetime partner..

with a bearable or smooth marriage, love can grow.. but with a lousy marriage, gudges will grow and love will eventually die..
Foremost, what does 'husband material' mean?
Jaslinejasline

I believe person who is a good husband material must be a good man first. The word "good" is ambiguous, so diff ppl will hv diff interpretation due to diff expectation.

My expectation of a good husband is a responsible, dedicated and trustworthy man. A man with all these 3 quality will be consider perfect for me, despite there might be imperfection.

last nite 's episode at kallang leisure park was of one.. classic case.. me dumping him n slaming the car door .
n then we had an argument in starbucks n he stormed off.

YOG closing.. 26August 2010

21 months of my anniversary with panda..another 3 more months marks the 24th months with her.. as compared to the entries.. no longer sweet sweet liao.. getting more structured and predicted.. we have decided to joint open an account to share our assets and save up for the future.. hohohoho
today is the last day of YOG. youth olympic games. i suppose. a lot of ppl who work in town are cursing of the road closure.. hohoho

when a relationship evolves to marriage

it becomes more of a responsibility . due to the change in role. boyfriend , girl friend vs.. husband n wife.. mother . n father.
it then becomes more challenging to maintain the relationship. there goes my hopes of water house premium. oversubscribed by 300 % madness..
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morale of the story.. hdb sucks..
continue to throw in $10 to bid for a house..wahahaha..
so many things have happened for the past 6 months. seems like donkey years .. i defitely learn a lot in dp.. compared to citiphone or sa in ocbc ..
although the $ is a big discount.. i will continue to strive hard.. swinburn uni.. bachelor of commerce.. here i come.. to sign the LO with RHB .. finish paying up 12k for it.. n get a fat pay check aft tat .. n settle my life happiness..
ah bui got to save up hard for it ..
cheers
porkie.. panda n i can do it .!

despicable new team lead

here r too many of such ppl ard. shld nt waste time with these unclass ppl. only ppl w callibre would spend more time condusively
so wat if she can spread so much rumour n those malicioius gossip
if only thats e best she can do ..
who in the rite mind just shoves you a little pc of post it note and then . ask u to call a client . obviously to collect shit.
if only u had the courtesy to pre empt your fellow team mate . on whats coming, it would have been more polite..
although the matter has been resolved. i still find her despicable to stoop so low just to find out ppl with no calibre. like her throw ppl her work
Those no ingredient ppl will resort to this kind of thing if not they cant survive...
n shes such a good bootlicker anyway.. work is just work to me.. wont get extra for being such gd pr rite hahaha.. continue to monitor n bcc my gui ren la .. no choice
shes a deep one

despicable new team lead

here r too many of such ppl ard. shld nt waste time with these unclass ppl. only ppl w callibre would spend more time condusively
so wat if she can spread so much rumour n those malicioius gossip
if only thats e best she can do ..

whats ur stage in relationship n hw far would u accomodate ur other half.. nt the possessive n the 'extremist ' for me ...

Stage 1 - The Romance Stage

This is also known as the Courtship Phase or the Fantasy Stage, and can last anywhere from 2 months to 2 years. This is when you and your partner have just met, and everything is absolutely amazing. You can't get enough of each other. Neither of you can do any wrong in the eyes of the other... mainly because you're both still on your best behavior. The focus in this stage is on commonalities - you have so many common interests, you could practically be the same person! You show your partner your absolute best self, and you try to please each other as much as possible. Conflict is seen as "bad" in this stage, and is avoided at all costs. You can't imagine living without this person, so you begin spending as much time together as possible. This is the stage when our defenses are down the most, which allows you to be open to and fall in love. You and your partner are building an important foundation in this stage, so your relationship can grow. There are biological effects as well. When you're in this stage, your body is producing enormous amounts of endorphins, which makes you feel unusually happy, positive and excited about everything in your life (this is that "head over heels in love" feeling!). This is the stage most often portrayed in movies and romantic novels, for obvious reasons. Bottom line - you are happier than you've ever been, and can't imagine ever feeling any differently.

Stage 2 - The Disillusionment Stage

This stage is also known as the Familiarization Stage, or the Adjusting to Reality Phase. This is where you begin to realize that your partner is actually a human being (horror of horrors!). You get to know each other more and more, and as a result you start recognizing their various flaws and shortcomings. You see your partner in relaxed situations, and you become more relaxed as well. Since your body cannot possibly continue to produce the same levels of endorphins that it was in the beginning, those feelings of being on top of the world start to decline. Your partner's little habits aren't quite as cute as they used to be, but there is still enough goodwill from the Romance Stage that you're willing to overlook them. This stage can start to trickle into your relationship slowly, as you begin to see your partner for who s/he really is. Or sometimes it happens all of a sudden, when there has been some sort of dishonesty or deceit. This phase can be confusing and discouraging, since you've just experienced so much openness and connection in the Romance Stage. However, at this stage, your main job is to learn how to communicate and resolve conflict with this person effectively, which is an important skill if you want your relationship to continue.

Stage 3 - The Power Struggle Stage

This stage is also known as the Disappointment Phase or Distress Stage. As the characteristics from the Disillusionment Phase intensify, they become harder and harder to deal with. You will most likely begin to pull away from each other in this stage. At this point, you both still believe that conflict is a "bad" thing, but you are increasingly aware of your many differences. You fight to draw boundaries in the relationship, and as a result even small annoyances become big issues. This is the stage where you define unacceptable behavior, and most couples have occasional or frequent thoughts of leaving the relationship. More and more often, you start to feel like your partner is self-centered or un-caring, or even worse, that they simply can't be trusted. Deep resentments begin to build if you're unable to resolve your issues in a respectful and mutually agreeable way. Many couples get stuck in this stage, because this way of interacting becomes normal in their relationship. This is when it is absolutely necessary to learn to manage your differences effectively - to communicate and work together as a team, even though it's tempting to believe that your partner's sole purpose on Earth is to make your life difficult. Not surprisingly, this is the stage most couples are in when they decide to break up or file for divorce. However, if they are able to negotiate all of the landmines during this phase, they'll move on to....

Stage 4 - The Stability Stage

This is a restful and peaceful time, compared to the last stage. This stage is also known as the Friendship Phase or Reconciliation Stage. Some couples never make it to this stage, but the ones who do find that they have deeper feelings of love, connection and trust with their partner. You now have history together, and most people begin to rely on the predictability of the relationship. As you enter this stage, you begin to realize that your partner isn't perfect, but your personal differences aren't quite as threatening as they used to be. You're able to resolve most of your differences, at least to some extent, and you become more confident in the relationship. Some people feel a sense of loss in this stage as they learn to accept their partner for who they truly are, since this means they have to let go of the fantasy that was established early on in the relationship. But for the most part, the deepening sense of friendship and commitment is a good trade-off for those early feelings of butterflies and excitement. This is also when you begin to re-establish your own outside interests and friendships, which were given up in the Romance Phase. There is some danger that you may begin to drift apart from or become bored with your partner in this phase, so you should try to maintain the connection that was created in the Romance Phase. Overall, this is the stage when you finally begin to feel comfortable and happy with your deepening relationship.

Stage 5 - The Commitment Stage

This stage is also known as the Acceptance Phase, the Transformation Stage, or the Real Love Phase. It is estimated that fewer than 5% of couples actually make it to this stage, according to The Relationship Institute. This is the stage when both couples have a clear notion of who their partner is, faults, foibles and weaknesses galore... yet they make a conscious choice to be with this person in spite of all of those things (and in some cases, because of those things). You are no longer with your partner because you need them, but because you've chosen them, which means the level of resentment you felt in the Power Struggle Phase has decreased, if not disappeared. If you've made it to this stage, you and your partner are a team. You genuinely love your partner, and you look out for their best interests just as much as you look out for your own. Your partner is your best friend. There are few surprises about your partner's habits or character in this phase. You've collaborated to overcome many challenges together, and have grown to accept and support each other without restriction. Your vision for your relationship is in congruence with who you are and what you both truly want. You have discussed your future together - you have similar life goals, and you feel encouraged to define your relationship further. Many couples decide to make a formal or public commitment to each other in this stage (such as marriage) to demonstrate their intention to continue their relationship. This is the stage in which your relationship becomes a true partnership.

About the author: Sarah M. Schultz, MA, CPC is a certified Personal Development Coach in Park City, UT.

quite a NITEfor a weekend

to cut short the entry.. i blow quite a bit of hole for my pocket and the worse decision i made was to settle for budget hotel on a budget get away weekend.
toilet. super small.
panda kenna stuck.. me roll on bed laughing away. got to rescue him from the bed by lifting the bed as he could roll out while he try to pick a mineral bottle frm under the bed.
we got in such an argument i was willing to put this $110 to waste. n go back home separately on our own..
i was so fed up . as the period of YOG. i couldnt find hotels to my budget and the rest which was available were far from my spending. a boutique cost me a little more than $200. armani watch $199.. tats $400.. and if i filter in dinner $50 for a slightly high class.. total damage would be close to $500..
i wanted was a differentiated weekend with some privacy.
secondly i had a hard time locating this hotel and the service was like shit when they put me on hold for about 5 minutes transfering call to try to navigate how to go from wiki edge shopping mall. as i have spent about 40 minutes on the road walking n trying to figure out where is 183 selegie. lastly lesson learnt better to wait for a good room than to rush for a lousy n unenjoyable one. think this also applies to the house ..
ya. i have to take note. i need a big bed. dinning table n a c omfortable yet roomy enough toilet so panda n i decide to have a house.. he will not kao pei that he cant even bath properly or not enough space to wear his pants which pisses.
oh yeah n secondly when we cant figure out how to on the tv. we also called the reception and the receptionist just mentioned they only have dvd function which is as equally not professional. nevertheless the smart engineer panda. manage to on the tv n we manage to get pass the day with some peanuts .. ice mountain mineral water n 3 in 1 coffee. total damage was $300. i did save about $100 nett , was thinking how i paid more. perhaps the nite would not have been so unpleasant initally.
fair enough when i explained to tat panda. its nt easy to find cheap and "big" place . then we manage to calm down n make do. initally the only source of media was just my little pink axioo netbook. n when tv was fixed. it was back to civilisation.
so the only hope was to to cling on to "breakfast"
as i thought.. budget = breakfast set and not breakfast buffet. hahaha.
ended up some simple lunch again in the gb market n we r done w e weekend get away plan.

virgin attempt in wrapping presents

after 6 months in DP. i initally thought that i would quit or will not get confirmed by the 3rd month.
Everything was so foriegn, new to me .
now its a breeze. i have elvin to thank for . as he always comments. i always chuan huo for him to cover for me.. hahaha
n i might become famous if migitarisk llc reverts. global data company.. hahahaha..
gift wrapping would have been easier if i have asked the corporate comm.. April for help..

slim chances of getting chances for selection for HDB unit

Apr 2010
Punggol 21
Punggol Emerald Studio Apartment 188 188 43 159 23
Punggol Emerald / Punggol Waves 3-Room 201 162 39 145 18
4-Room 609 456 127 382 68
5-Room 431 322 89 266 49

chinese left 382 as on 8/8/2010.. slim chance will get it .

information busines and credit bureau worthiness

Recently I stayed back in office to share on the commercial credit bureau and was astounded to know some of the payment patterns and habits of some consumers or debtors in the market currently.
It is indeed something which is worth exploring as the climate of the business cycle is ever changing and what makes it worth investing is the capricious behaviour of these people.

Another 3 months, its fast, will be returning back to kaplan to complete uni
i m telling myself to finish it and get it done by end of next year. time to switch ab it of my lifestyle. n i tell myself once i got the extra paper its time to job hop again with IT solutions , financial software back ground it would be good.
and to earn back all that money
Besides the dream house goal is yet to be finalised as well. pending on 21 sept to do the selection
time is 10.37am now another 1.5 hours to knock off. yeah yeah..

不要因为在一起时间久了，觉得感情稳定了，什么都无所谓了，而忽略了对方

有这这样一种女人，她们很傻。貌似很花心，其实很专一；貌似很坚强，其实比谁都要脆弱；貌似很开心，可是笑容背后的哀伤谁又能懂呢？

其实很多时候，这一类人都是在自我折磨。明明很爱很爱对方，却宁愿心痛的死掉，也选择放手。然后转身离开，任眼泪随意放肆。

其实很多时候，这一类人很好懂。她们很害怕孤单，因为一个人的时候，她们会胡思乱想，她们会想起那个没有结局的故事，会想起那个模糊却又清晰的脸庞；因为一个人的时候，她们会觉得很没安全感。她们的要求总是那么的低，只要爱着的那个人陪着她们就好。

其实很多时候，这种女人都很敏感，都很容易猜疑。一个眼神、一个动作，都会让她们神经兮兮一整天。所以不要让她们恐慌，不要让她们伤心，如果爱她们。

其实很多时候，这一类女人都在感伤。不是她们多愁善感，只是容易触景生情罢了。她们喜欢用文字来刻画她们的心情，这也是她们的一种寄托方式。

其实很多时候，这一类人都处在矛盾之中，是继续，还是暂停；是放弃，还是坚持。看似感性的她们，却往往于最后让理性驾驭整个思维。

其实很多时候，这种女人害怕看见别人的甜蜜，不是嫉妒，只是会觉得和以前的自己好像。然后会陷入整个回忆，待过往的疼痛唤醒自己的意识，再一个人慢慢舔舐自己的伤口。

其实很多时候，这种女人都很执著，有时候不明白她们在坚持着什么。她们是在期待那个没有结局的故事的结局还是在等待更大的伤害？她们就是傻，爱上了，就会像个洋娃娃，任意被摆弄。

这种女人，缺点太多，脾气太臭。有点任性，而且敏感多疑。所以要么不要靠近她们，要么就用真心对待她们。因为她们的心脆的，很伤不起











子就是他了。一切都顺理成章的进行着，就等着毕业、工作、结婚。

并不能因为这样的稳定，而忽略了生活上的细节，从而忽略了对方的感觉。就算再坚固的感情，也会受伤、也会被别人趁虚而入的。所以，我们要注意这些小节，因为生活就是由每个小节组成的。如果你不想分手，想一直走一辈子。那么，请注意以下这些：

1、随时能联系到彼此。因为生活学习工作的原因，两个人经常分开是难免的，而对现在的我们来说，手机应是我们最主要的联系工具。不要没事就关机，或者不带电话，电话没电要及时换电池、充电。我给你打电话，不是要监督你、检查你，而是要知道你平安，你现在很好。所以，请24小时开机，如果当时因为种种原因没有接电话，事后一定要马上打回来，主动说明原因。

2、经常谈心，让彼此知道对方的想法。这一点是两个人长久相处最重要的一点。不沟通哪来的彼此了解，不了解怎么能形成默契。你也不用像做思想汇报一样的说自己的心理活动。就像聊天一样，说说自己身边发生的事，自己的想法，或者说说两个人之间的相处之道。谈恋爱谈恋爱，不交谈怎么恋爱？不要把什么都憋在心里，这样你憋得难受，我猜得也难受，女人本来就是爱胡思乱想的。往往很多事，你把它说出来，反而倒没事了。你什么都不说，只会没事变有事，甜蜜变伤心。

3、吵架要发泄出来，不能隔夜。两个人在一起，吵架是避免不了的。但是希望两个人不要冷战，可以争吵，可以打架。让彼此都发泄出来，这样才不会生病。更不要隔夜，生气睡觉是最容易死人的，除非你是没心没肺的那种，躺下就着，一点事儿没有的。但最好还是当天解决，因为很多事往往越搁越难解决。

4、互相尊重。不光说话要互相尊重，还要尊重彼此的思想、行为。尤其是在对方朋友面前，不要过分的显示你有多么牛，你一定要占上风，因为主角本来就不是你。不是说，你在他朋友面前，一定要给足他面子，贬低自己，那样他在朋友面前就会显得怎么怎么样，就是爱他、尊重他。而是说不要刻意的贬低他，显示自己，而是要互相捧着说，那样才会让别人觉得你们是互相尊重，感情平等的。

5、不要跟异性朋友没完没了的联系。每个人都有异性朋友，这也不是什么不好的事情。反而能说明你这个人心理很健康。但是你的异性朋友不要太多，超过同性朋友更是有问题的。联系可以，但不要太过频繁。有这么一句话：“跟爱人吵架，跟陌生人说心里话。”你跟异性朋友永远是温柔的，心里话都说给她们。可是跟爱人却是冷漠的，惜字如金的，什么心里话都不说。那么你们的感情肯定经不起一点儿风浪，和平也只是暂时的，一旦对方受不了了，爆发了，那么你们肯定就完蛋了。

6、不要吝啬你的嘴。两个人交往，甜言蜜语是应该的，这也是最增进感情的一种方式。不要因为在一起时间久了，觉得没必要说这些了，就吝啬自己的嘴，情话要经常说。三天没见就必须说想念，不想也得这么说。“不就是才一个月见不到吗？”这种话绝对不能说，太伤人心。

7、态度决定一切。不要动不动就不耐烦、发脾气、乱吼。谁都有心情不好，谁都有不高兴的时候。但是你要跟对方说明原因，不要无缘无故的凶人。

8、两个人吵架，不管是谁的错，必须有人先低头道歉，哄对方；而另一个人也必须很给面子的配合，迅速和好。

们长大了，不再像小时候那么单纯，一看就懂。这个世界上的诱惑也变多了，你不去招惹她，她会来倒贴你的。人越大，心思就越多。如果你不去努力维护你的感情，不去用心的对待你的另一半，那么再坚定地感情也会被摧毁的。

hiohohooh

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who would have thought that after 1 dAY..poor peanut gal has a c ast on her leg..

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