a nite. out with E Lian Na.. ang mo lian n Serene

Its been a year since I sat down dinner face to face with Elena. Today included Serene as well..preggy mother in town.. circular st.. had some ranmen n ..tea n heineken after dinner. Dinner treat by E.lian.. Shes changed after a year. still as melancholy. Hates n love her job. goes home 9,10pm daily. shifted to Kent hill some posh condos near scotts. her dog passed on n she didnt really get over it much. She has this shaking hand syndrome which requires medication. It could be her.. her quote is relationship phobic n that is hindering her from meeting new men in her life after Guy.. She still loves him but she choose to end the relationship. Rich. but still as usual unhappy w her mum whos an exact mould of her. stubborn strong headed and mood swings. Shared a little bit on my upcoming plans.She was sharing with me today. problems w Mdm Bong n her unsightly habits.. that love should be self sacrificing.. selfless n initiated willingly..How many normal folks have that kind of enduring spirit. This is for housewives of the past era.. Women now are equally capable. Financially stable . Well educated and exposed. Yes marriage means married to the husband's family. Lily.. happily married w a son. Lucas.. Serene.. expecting dragon boy in 1 month.. 110912.. Elena happily travelling. diving trips.. career building.. maternal instincts..Zerrooo... Her advice if i continue to be getting my way . it indicates recipe for disaster potentially. Getting a man to choose between wife and mother. How a man treats his mother will reflect how he treats his wife.. hahaha.. I do have a lot to overcome. maybe bad hygiene habits.. n diets are one of the few areas I cant accommodate yet. Each family member has a equally troublesome person to deal with... Looking back 5/8/2012. YY is 9 n Baby Corliss is 3 yesterday. The family had fun in PAsir ris recreation Mac.. followed by bowling in dt east. Has been a long time since the family had a wonderful time.. My dad bowled well w many strikes.. we bowl w bro3.. Yao Long. michelle n Panda Pheng.. At around 11.30pm while sleeping halfway. my dad yelled n scream. He must have been complacent n stopped his medication when he thought hes ok. Wedding is for a day. marriage is for life. Y fuss over it when it cannot withstands the hardship n trials.. every morning after 29/9/13 I want to wake up n tell myself i make a gd choice when i sign the dotted line. No matter what happens this big bear is someone i w live with n take care of each other as long as we live.. The part of me being self centred n wilful.. stubborn. short temper..greedy and impatient.. I tink whatever the long path ahead.. I should love his mother like how i love mine. And family dun bear grudges. As a da sao.. have to be less ji jiao .. more open.. less narrow minded . more resourceful. tactful n dutiful... Its difficult doing .. executing than just saying it as a bystander.. So as a wife, i should place family above all interest as form of mindset..Although I may lugi a bit in the long run everybody but me is happi..What to do.. a single mother after 20 yrs of slogging would i want to c her stranded n lonely in her old age.. thats being infillal.. aint it... Put up with a grouchy woman... option 2. bear w her nonsense n hopes she could change..pray for improvements.. hahah wishful thinking... Change myself n my mindset probabbly easier.. And this shortly defines boring marriage mundane life...I m unsure if i m already dreading that day.. n life after 30 means commitment to the family. the house . the chores. the in laws. the parents. the kids. the colleagues... n be a super super mum .... its like 13 months to Mdm Sng.. Mrs Wang.. Sept 29 2013 7 months to photoshooting.. Mar 2013 10 months to food tasting.. June 2013 I think of it. as a project in parts to complete tasks. quotes. evaluating. negotiating. compromising n enduring as a daughter in law. sis in law. wife. mother. daughter n many other roles.. After 13 months.. endless contractor shopping n furnishing.. furniture shopping n chores.. This is marriage.. responsibilities n commitments..